Why talking about your bladder leakage problems can be beneficial

Humans aren’t perfect. We all have faults. I have a million!

Many of us have medical conditions and incontinence is just another medical condition. Unfortunately the word ‘incontinence’ has negative perceptions surrounding it, so I’ll ease us all in with a more user friendly term – bladder leakage.

I experience bladder leakage. Especially when I run, laugh uncontrollably, or sneeze. It’s embarrassing and I feel shame when I think about how I may be perceived.

For many years I did not tell my husband about my bladder leakage. But I can now tell you from experience that trying to keep it a secret is far more stressful than just getting it out in the open. If you have someone close to you and are scared to tell them about your bladder leaks, I strongly encourage you to tell them today!   

Why you ask? Here are three key reasons:

  1. I know it’s a cliché but talking about our feelings can really help. Yes, its true – and backed up by extensive research too. Talking through your experiences and putting your feelings into words has a positive impact on both your brain and your body.

    Because when you keep your feelings bottled up, this can then cause issues to escalate in other areas, for example, in your relationship.

    Furthermore, holding in the negative thoughts, anxiety and emotions can make you more susceptible to getting sick or feeling out of sorts.

    On top of that – holding in negative thoughts (especially ones targeted at yourself) can take your precious mind space away from more creative positive thoughts and energy.

    So be mindful of your internal negative thoughts. And to stop them before they take hold. 

Don’t forget – you get to choose how you feel about yourself.  

  1. It’s not just about helping you – it’s about helping the millions of other people who suffer from incontinence and are too ashamed to tell a soul. Sharing what you are dealing with in daily life can help you and others with the same struggles to realise that you are not alone, and what may feel overwhelming, is pretty standard for many people.

Remember one in three women and
one in ten men experience incontinence.
We are not alone. In fact – it’s really quite common!

  1. Lastly, sharing your bladder leakage problems with your partner, a trusted friend, a continence nurse, or a physio – can help you map out an improvement plan. This could present itself in many ways. It may be your physio suggesting medical options that will work, or it could be a friend giving you great tips on how to remember your pelvic floor exercises, or it may result in having your partner being more understanding about your needs e.g. why you want to do physical activities with the family first thing in the morning before you have too much liquid in your bladder.  

I admit – it can feel embarrassing and uncomfortable the first few times you share, but the more times you open up, the easier it will become. Try it today!


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